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𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐒𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧: 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐈 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐆𝐨 𝐎𝐟?

“𝑭𝒐𝒓 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒔𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒗𝒆𝒏 … 𝒂 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒌𝒆𝒆𝒑 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒘 𝒂𝒘𝒂𝒚” 𝑬𝒄𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝟯:(𝟭-𝟴) I had a great hike last week with Cali, one of our three Golden Retrievers, celebrating all the beauty of the new autumn season now upon us. And, as …

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Speak Lord, Your Servant is Listening

Some days you just have to say thank you Lord for all the blessings of nature He has bestowed to all of us. I often drive along Ocean Avenue here in Spring Lake, NJ on my way to Mass in the morning on purpose so I can peer out of my car window to take …

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Remembering September 11, 2001

As I began my 20 minute drive to the Princeton Junction train station from my home in Pennington, NJ on Tuesday, September 11, 2001, I couldn’t help but notice the beautiful blue sky on what I thought would be just another busy Tuesday in my typical work week. It was a welcome change from my …

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Grieving Job Loss: You Can’t Heal What You Don’t Feel

“𝑯𝒐𝒏𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒑𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒕𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒏 𝒏𝒐 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒚𝒆𝒕. 𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒑𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒐 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒈𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖, 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖’𝒗𝒆 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒅, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒅𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒆. 𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆, 𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒃𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒑𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒃𝒐𝒓𝒏.” 𝑵𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒚 𝑳𝒆𝒗𝒊𝒏, 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑮𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒆𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝑬𝒙𝒊𝒕 Job loss can often trigger a range of emotions …

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The Blessings of Our Cannonball Moments

“Therefore, keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will come.” Matthew 24:42 My Cannonball Moment — Saturday Afternoon July 15, 2017 — Tightness in My Chest It seemed like any other hot July weekend at the Jersey Shore. It was 4pm and I had just finished cutting the lawn …

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𝐈 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭, 𝐈 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐈𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐌𝐲 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭 – 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐉𝐨𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐒𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐆𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐉𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲

“𝘿𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝 𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙨 𝙖 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙞𝙩 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙚𝙣𝙙 𝙖 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙜𝙜𝙡𝙚𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙫𝙤𝙧𝙨 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙤𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙙𝙨 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙤𝙡𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙞𝙩 𝙢𝙖𝙮 𝙣𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙.” 𝙁𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙫𝙞𝙚 “𝙄 𝙉𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙎𝙖𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙈𝙮 𝙁𝙖𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧”(𝟭𝟵𝟳𝟬) As a Bereavement Counselor and Grief Coach, I often witness how quotations from Scripture, selected prayers, beautiful music, clips from …

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Grieving Dad on Father’s Day 2024

“𝑰 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒉𝒆’𝒅 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓. 𝑯𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒅 𝒔𝒐 𝒃𝒊𝒈 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒈. 𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒖𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒍𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒚𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔 𝒓𝒐𝒍𝒍 𝒃𝒚 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒇𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎, 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒂𝒅𝒆 𝒎𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒂𝒎. 𝑻𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒂𝒚 𝒃𝒆 𝒈𝒐𝒏𝒆, 𝒎𝒆𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓𝒔 𝒐𝒏. 𝑨𝒏𝒅 𝑰 𝒎𝒊𝒔𝒔 𝒉𝒊𝒎, 𝒎𝒚 𝑶𝒍𝒅 𝑴𝒂𝒏.” 𝑳𝒚𝒓𝒊𝒄𝒔 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 …

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Grieving Mom on Mother’s Day

“She’s somebody’s mother, boys, you know. For all she’s aged and poor and slow. And I hope some fellow will lend a hand to help my mother, you understand. If ever she’s poor and old and gray, when her own dear boy is far away.” From the poem “Somebody’s Mother” by Mary Brine When I …

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Along the Road: Do I Learn More from Sorrow or Joy?

In my work as a Bereavement Counselor and Grief Educator, I will often incorporate relevant Scripture readings, prayers, selected works of poetry, lyrics from beautiful music, provide opportunities for each person in our group to have their grief witnessed and validated, and I even use film clips that can help elicit the wide range of emotions …

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The Dash: A Poem of Remembrance Bringing Comfort to Those Grieving a Loss

Last night we concluded another 6-session cycle of our Bereavement Program at St. Catharine-St. Margaret Parish in Spring Lake, NJ to help those who are navigating that difficult journey of grieving the loss of a loved one. I am continually blessed by the inner strength, resilience, and courage that people in grief bring to this …