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𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐨 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐌𝐞 𝐀𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧 — 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐨 𝐏𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐠𝐮é𝐬

“𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙 𝙘𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙗𝙚 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙘𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙗𝙮 𝙖 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮 𝙤𝙛 𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙚𝙨, 𝙣𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙜, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙣𝙡𝙮 𝙗𝙮 𝙖 𝙨𝙥𝙞𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙡 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮, 𝙖 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮 𝙤𝙛 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙝, 𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙖𝙧𝙙𝙪𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙝𝙪𝙢𝙗𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙟𝙤𝙮𝙛𝙪𝙡, 𝙗𝙮 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙬𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 𝙖𝙩 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙩, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙖𝙩 𝙝𝙤𝙢𝙚.” — 𝙒𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝘽𝙚𝙧𝙧𝙮, 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙐𝙣𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 (𝟭𝟵𝟳𝟭) Today, …

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The Loyola Retreat Experience — Discerning God’s Call in the Silence

“𝙃𝙚𝙮 𝙅𝙖𝙘𝙠, 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙚𝙣𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙧𝙤𝙤𝙢 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙂𝙤𝙙 𝙞𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚?” — 𝘼 𝙦𝙪𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙚 𝙗𝙮 𝙢𝙮 𝙛𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙙 𝘽𝙞𝙡𝙡 Two weekends ago, my brother Matt and I stepped away from the noise of everyday life and attended a 42-hour Silent Retreat at Loyola Jesuit Center in Morristown, NJ. Matt and I have …

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𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐒𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐒𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧

“𝑭𝒐𝒓 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒔𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏… 𝒂 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒕.” 𝑬𝒄𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝟯 A few days ago, I loaded up my truck with petunias and impatiens — two of my favorite flowers I’ve been planting for decades. It’s one of my favorite spring rituals, following weeks of preparation — power raking and fertilizing the lawn and …

Bereavement Grief Coaching Reflections Spiritual Coaching

Fifteen Years Later: I Still Carry My Dad’s Heart With Me

“i carry your heart with me (i carry it inmy heart) i am never without it” — E. E. Cummings In Bereavement Ministry, we often talk about the “Calendar of Grief” — those dates forever etched in our hearts: a loved one’s birthday, the anniversary of their passing, wedding anniversaries, and holidays like Mother’s Day, …

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“𝐈𝐟 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐈𝐭, 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐞”: 𝐂𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝟔𝟎 𝐘𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐂𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐜 𝐄𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐭 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐦𝐮𝐬 𝐂𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐜

Earlier this week, I had the privilege of sitting down for lunch with Chris Farrell, the President of Paramus Catholic High School — my alma mater and the largest Catholic high school in the state of New Jersey. His energy and commitment to the school and to Catholic education is both admirable and deeply empowering. …

Career Coaching Executive Coaching Reflections Spiritual Coaching

𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐤 𝐘𝐨𝐮, 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐘𝐨𝐫𝐤: 𝐈𝐟 𝐈 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐈𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞, 𝐈 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐈𝐭 𝐀𝐧𝐲𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞

Somewhere along Sunday’s 40-mile route through the five boroughs, the TD Five Boro Bike Tour became something I didn’t expect — a journey back through the moments and people that shaped my life. As I rode through Lower Manhattan, I thought about the four firms that defined much of my earlier career — Merrill Lynch, …

Bereavement Grief Coaching Spiritual Coaching

𝐂𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐡𝐞𝐝 𝐊𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐬𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐆𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟 – 𝐌𝐲 𝐁𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫’𝐬 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐋𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐁𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐇𝐞 𝐏𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝

Fifty-four years ago today, my older brother Dennis passed away suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 19. In early 2020, going through my Mom’s personal things after her passing, I found this letter — Dennis had written it to me in February 1972, just two months before he died. I was a junior at …

Bereavement Career Coaching Executive Coaching Grief Coaching Spiritual Coaching

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗗𝗼𝗼𝗿𝘀 𝗪𝗲 𝗟𝗼𝗰𝗸 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲

“𝑺𝒆𝒆, 𝑰 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆𝒅 𝒃𝒆𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒏 𝒐𝒑𝒆𝒏 𝒅𝒐𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒏𝒐 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒔𝒉𝒖𝒕.” 𝑹𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝟑:𝟖 As I come to the close of my year-long journey through the Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius of Loyola, I find myself returning to certain Scripture passages—not just for what they meant then, but for how deeply they mirror …

Bereavement Career Coaching Executive Coaching Grief Coaching Spiritual Coaching

𝗥𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗴𝗻𝗶𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗢𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗿𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗠𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲

“𝑩𝒆𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒅, 𝑰 𝒂𝒎 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒏𝒆𝒘.” — 𝑩𝒐𝒐𝒌 𝒐𝒇 𝑹𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝟐𝟏:𝟓 The resurrection of Jesus is not just a precious single moment we celebrate every Easter morning — it is woven into the fabric of our everyday lives and something we experience repeatedly as part of being human — a rhythm, a quiet steady …

Bereavement Career Coaching Executive Coaching Grief Coaching Spiritual Coaching

𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐒𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐌𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐞𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐉𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐑𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭

“𝙒𝙚𝙚𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙢𝙖𝙮 𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙪𝙧𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙖 𝙣𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙟𝙤𝙮 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙩𝙝 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜.” — 𝙋𝙨𝙖𝙡𝙢 𝟯𝟬:𝟱 This morning, I took my second outdoor bike ride of the year — part of my preparation for the 2026 TD Five Boro Bike Tour, a 40-mile ride through New York City on May 3rd. As I headed toward the …