Jack V. Kirnan - Kirnan Coaching Associates, LLC

𝐌𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐉𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐚 𝐓𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞: 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚 𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐋𝐨𝐬𝐬

“𝑮𝒐𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒗𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒕𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒚.” 𝑳𝒚𝒓𝒊𝒄𝒔 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒏𝒈 𝑻𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝑷𝒍𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒚, 𝑫𝒂𝒏 𝑺𝒄𝒉𝒖𝒕𝒕𝒆 (𝟏𝟗𝟗𝟐) Can you remember the experience of sitting at the kitchen or dining room table growing up? At first glance you might say, “What’s so memorable about that oak table?” After all, …

Spiritual Coaching Reflections

𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐢𝐤𝐞: 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐀𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐚𝐲

“𝑴𝒂𝒚𝒃𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒋𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒊𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒔𝒐 𝒎𝒖𝒄𝒉 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒏𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈. 𝑴𝒂𝒚𝒃𝒆 𝒊𝒕’𝒔 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒖𝒏-𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒊𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒚𝒐𝒖, 𝒔𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒃𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆.” 𝑷𝒂𝒖𝒍𝒐 𝑪𝒐𝒆𝒍𝒉𝒐, 𝒂𝒖𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒓 𝒐𝒇 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑨𝒍𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒎𝒊𝒔𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑷𝒊𝒍𝒈𝒓𝒊𝒎𝒂𝒈𝒆 One of the joys of living here at the Jersey Shore is heading out …

Reflections Spiritual Coaching

𝐈 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐚𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭: 𝐂𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞

“𝙎𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙠 𝙇𝙤𝙧𝙙, 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙡𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜.” 𝟭 𝗦𝗮𝗺𝘂𝗲𝗹 𝟯:𝟭𝟬 This past weekend, I was deeply humbled and grateful to be honored by St. Catharine–St. Margaret Parish in Spring Lake, NJ, for my contributions as Trustee, Pastoral Council President, Finance Council member, and for leading our Bereavement Ministry. In reflecting on this chapter of my …

Bereavement Grief Coaching Recovery Coaching Spiritual Coaching

The Redbird in Grief: Mom, Dad, Dennis — Is That You?

“Death ends a life, not a relationship. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on — in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here.” From the book, Tuesdays with Morrie (1997) by Mitch Albom During the past several weeks, a …

Grief Coaching Bereavement Recovery Coaching Spiritual Coaching

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐆𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐁𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐤?

“𝑪𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆, 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒘𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒃𝒖𝒓𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝑰 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒕. 𝑻𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒎𝒚 𝒚𝒐𝒌𝒆 𝒖𝒑𝒐𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖… 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒚𝒐𝒌𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒚 𝒃𝒖𝒓𝒅𝒆𝒏 𝒊𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕.” (𝑴𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒘 11:28) In many ways, the grief journey is like carrying a backpack and a metaphor for the emotional weight we carry after the …

Career Coaching Executive Coaching Leadership Coaching Spiritual Coaching

𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗔𝗱𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗿𝘆 𝗕𝗼𝗮𝗿𝗱: 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗚𝗲𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗦𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝘁 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗧𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲?

One of the most effective things you can do during a major life or career transition is an exercise to help you develop a Personal Advisory Board. Ideally, your Advisory Board is a carefully chosen group of individuals who you trust and who know you well. Each Advisor should bring something different to your Board, …

Grief Coaching Career Coaching Executive Coaching Spiritual Coaching

Navigating the Bargaining Stage of Grief in Job Loss

“All I can think of is what happened? I want my life, my job, my paycheck back, Lord. My daily routine is gone! Is this really Your plan for my life?” From the book, “A Spiritual Guide for the Unemployed”, Timothy Mullner, DVM (2011) The Bargaining Stage of Grieving a Job Loss Grieving job loss …

Career Coaching Executive Coaching Grief Coaching Spiritual Coaching

𝐆𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐄𝐱𝐭𝐫𝐚 𝐈𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬

“𝑬𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒈𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝑰 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒅 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒆𝒙𝒕𝒓𝒂 𝒊𝒏𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒔𝒐 𝑰 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒘𝒂𝒕𝒄𝒉 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒂 𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒕𝒍𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓.” 𝑨 𝒇𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒇𝒍𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒉𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒏, 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒇𝒊𝒍𝒎, “𝑬𝒙𝒕𝒓𝒂 𝑰𝒏𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔” (𝟮𝟬𝟭𝟵) A few weeks ago, my wife, son, and I attended a short film festival in Manasquan, NJ called Asbury Shorts which has …

Spiritual Coaching Career Coaching Executive Coaching Grief Coaching

Planting New Seeds of Hope This Spring

“Yes, there will be growth in the spring”, the character Chauncey Gardner in the movie, Being There (1979) That quote above by the late Peter Sellers from the movie 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 is one of my favorite movies of all time where he plays a reclusive gardener named Chance and is thrust into the world of …

Executive Coaching Career Coaching Grief Coaching Spiritual Coaching

Turning 70 in the 4th Quarter of Life

“You know how it is: you’re twenty-one or twenty-two and you make some decisions; then whisssh! you’re seventy.” A line spoken by the Stage Manager in the play, Our Town by Thornton Wilder (1938) Every new year is an opportunity to self-assess where we made some progress in the year just ended and where we …